Talk Thursday

Stop Picking, Start Healing…

By September 22, 2016December 29th, 201710 Comments

Stop picking

Last night, I lay in bed unconciously picking at a wound (it used to be a little wound), my mind far away in wonderland, when the pain of what I was doing brought me back to reality…
I had picked at it too hard, peeled the surface of the ‘now not so little wound’, reopening it, a little blood came out and boy did it hurt!!! …

This is one bad habit I have. I tend to bother wounds alot. I don’t care if It will eventually leave black spots on my skin, or the fact that It would take a longer time to heal, I just keep picking.

And then I thought about it and realised it’s the same way I pick(ed) at emotional wounds, reopening and re living them, causing myself unnecessary pain and prolonging the time I take to heal.

Now why would I go and do that. Didn’t  the initial pain hurt enough already that after say months, I go back to it? I give room for the same people from past friendships & relationships gone bad to worm their way back into my life and cause more pain. In some cases, I dont even let them in, I hold on to whatever happened and dwell and dwell and dwell, often blaming myself even when I shouldn’t.

Typing this I feel like giving myself a good smack up side my head cos I realised (the hard way) that this bad habit tends to prevent me from seeing and enjoying current friendships & relationships.


People dont need all that negative vibe you know. So there! Ive decided to stop picking. My healing has begun and yes I may be tempted to pick once more but nah, I’m determined not to because this habit just isnt healthy plus it almost cost me a friendship I really cherish. Imagine that!!!

So if youre just like me (the old me), I urge you to please stop picking and start healing…


Kisses loves!!!

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  • TANG says:

    Yup it’s an unhealthy habit and please feel free to let me give you good smack up side your head if the wound is itching you to pick LOL. It is well love and that healing process would be fast and complete IJN.

  • lade says:

    Great post grace. I used to pick too but recently I’ve left that life. I actually have no kind of energy for that so it’s all positive vibes. For people that hurt me, I don’t keep grudges… They just become irrelevant!! So much peace since that.

  • Damiloves says:

    The temptation to pick at wounds is real, it’s probabaly the same one that makes us revisit past pain and heart break. But like you said, wounds heal faster when we leave them alone

    I don’t know how to love him

  • Shakara Girl says:

    Just forget and ignore the wound like it ain’t there, Very soon it would turn to a scar and and might just fade away. As humans we need to learn to let go, no matter how hard it may seem, we can only find true happiness and peace when we let things that hurt us go. It’s well love.

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  • Nedoux says:

    Hi Grace,

    You already know that I love Talk Thursdays, right?!

    This piece was thought provoking, it reminded me of picking the scabs of wounds that cover grudges, picking them until the resentment comes flooding back and the anger begins afresh.

    Still, I wonder, even when one forgives, is forgetting actually possible? 😀

    I agree with you, it’s best to focus on healing and leave old wounds. Let sleeping dogs lie…

  • Cherryðoc™ says:

    Truer words have not been spoken. I couldn’t agree less. I’ve been in the cold for far too long, I really need let go, and maybe, just maybe, the healing process will begin. Thank you for this.

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  • diceytown says:

    The first step to healing is forgetting. And you can only forget when you forgive. The scars might never leave but forget what caused it and you will have peace.

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