sich-oo-ey-shuh n ship.
“A relationship that has no label on it.. like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship”.

It’s 2:14am and I am currently listening to Georgia by Emily King. 


This seems to be the new rave. One latching on to another yet unaware of what it is ‘they are doing’ while some will say labelling what they have will ruin things.

What’s the point defining this if what we have makes us happy they say, so you go with the flow afraid to actually voice out how you feel why? Cos ure scared it will backfire and once again you will end up all alone.

You see him (in most cases) or her doing stuff you do not approve of but you cannot speak up because ‘bae’ isnt ‘bae’ afterall.

You get jealous wondering who he’s texting at 2am in the morning yet you dare not let the fact that you are upset be visible because ‘bae isnt bae’ remember?!

In some cases, most cases sex is involved and females being emotional beings by default get all caught up.

Emotions and feelings are heightened only to be shut down by the response they get to the ‘so what are we’ question.

For some, the guy in question has even professed how much he cares about you and he might even chip in that he loves you and wants things to work out.

Go on then, ask him a few weeks later if you’re his girlfriend.

I bet the answer you would get is ‘I haven’t asked you out yet but lets see how things go’.

If you’re okay with this arrangement please by all means remain in it. I see it as time consuming and time wasting to be where you are not wanted or unsure of.

So I ask, wouldn’t you rather be alone than be confused?

Well what do I know about these things. I’m just here to put up a post on Talk Thursday… ?  

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  • Nene says:

    I think you should persevere dear. Everything will work out well in the end.

  • Daisy says:

    As true as this post is, I couldnt help but laugh. My friend has been in a situatuonship with some guy for 7months now. I hope it works out for them.

  • Idee says:

    Some people like to see how and where it goes before becoming “official” na. But all that time spent. Sigh

  • Sophie says:

    I am currently in a situationship. Some days I get so mad at myself for being in it, other days I accept it cos I really like the guy and hope things work out.

  • Berry Dakara says:

    If you like him/her say it. If they feel the same way, enter relationship. If they don’t, time to waka pass. If they want to see how it goes, remember to remove some of your eggs from that basket.

    I’m not saying you need to force a relationship on someone but after a certain amount of time, a person must know whether they want to be a in a relationship. If they don’t know or aren’t sure then that’s my cue to say “Sayonara friend.”

  • Lade says:

    Lool this was a fun read.
    I feel there is a rather thin line between what stage or point in time one can say it’s actually a situationship and when it’s just still friends developing feelings and being careful not to rush into making it a relationship because they just might be what they are – feelings.

  • OG says:

    If a guy wants you he is ready to go through hell and high water to make you his. This is coming from a man’s perspective.

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