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As a person who has been rejected a lot of times on different levels, I could totally relate with how my friend was feeling when he called me the other day expressing how he was feeling. And even though I haven’t been able to completely deal or handle the process, I do know that for every time I get rejected, It first of all knocks me down real bad then urges me to try again and again and again.
Rejection is an unavoidable part of our life and strikes fear into everyone at least once in their life.The way we deal with it tells an important story about how we deal with issues and our ability to uphold our self-respect and dignity. A natural reaction, is to feel diminished, unloved, worthless, insecure and insignificant. When we are rejected, our dark side may want to innate a retaliatory strike to inflict a similar hurt.
As we all know or probably don’t know, there are different forms of rejection. From emotional (relationships) to Job related, to friendship, to health (transplant) but that’s not why we are here lol and they all hurt just as much but the ability to handle it and not let it drown you or leave you in a constant state of depression is what counts.
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I like to see it as part of a learning process. Like there’s a need to change something about the approach used. I also believe that there’s always something to take away from a failed ‘project’ even though as the preacher here I sometimes struggle with it and it takes me a while before I come around. On the emotional level, it’s pretty easy to blame oneself when a relationship doesn’t work. I have come to realise that this isn’t always the case as sometimes, the other party might not have been emotionally ready and still decided to come to you with their baggage (sucks right?) and cos of our human nature will try and pin it on you so they feel less guilty.
On the job related side, I see it as maybe the other applicant has more skills required for the role than I do. This doesn’t mean I am not worthy, it just means I didn’t meet the criteria, so what do I do, I build myself up more for the desired role and try again.
I don’t want to go on and on cos at this point I’d like to believe you all have gotten the point, plus as I type this I keep spacing out (I really don’t know why), so just bear in mind that rejection is a normal part of every process and how we handle it is very crucial.
You know I love you all right? Kisses.