The other day, a friend and I were chatting via bbm. Nothing heavy, just gisting about stuff like how I hate onions and how boli and fish is bae…
You know that kinda convo when out of nowhere she asked me a question I had never really thought about. “Gracey, how soon is too soon to tell my boyfriend I love you?
Me : Silence *crickets*… (In my head I’m like is he ‘our’ boyfriend?)
According to her, they should be on the I love you level after all they have been dating for 8 and a half months, they practically talk all the time, are best of friends, met each others family, references have been made about the future concerning them, he has told her how much he cares about her and once mentioned he adored her and she ‘thinks’ she loves him and is ready to tell him but she’s being careful so she doesn’t scare him away plus the fact that she doesn’t want to look weak, needy and all that. Hmmmm, at this point I grab my last pack of MnMs, still silent but reading her messages cos I kinda sensed she needed to talk, rant, let it all out or whatever.
Now, you all would think that when she was done, I launched into some mushy speech on how by now they should be exchanging the I can’t breathe without you lines after all, 8 months in the relationship world is quite a while and that she should go ahead and tell him or even ask him if he loves her right? Well not quite. I proceeded by pointing out to her the fact that she said she ‘thinks’ she loves him and needs to be certain she does before saying it to him. He too might be in that phase for all we know. I really didn’t want to have this conversation with her cos I didn’t and still don’t know how to answer such a question but I did end the convo by telling her to wait till she feels it’s right (is there such a time like that though?)
All I know is, one can love many but being in love, now that’s different.
What do you guys think?
In unrelated news: Hear the music in the background? Like it? I intend to put up music on the blog from time to time. You can pause it if it becomes a distraction but if you think I should remove it completely, please feel free to tell me and I will.