A Letter to women frustrated with being single.

I know it’s not time for Talk Thursday, but NSG put this post up and I thought to share it with her permission though. I agree with more than a thing or two from this post…

Just days away from the new year, I sat and fought back tears after being dumped by a man that I had been seeing for a couple of months. Although the split was amicable, I was still very angry over the idea that once again, I was ending the old year and beginning the New Year single.

With hot tears beginning to stream down my face, I angrily asked God why he kept sending me men that were not worthy of my heart or time. Luckily within that same thought I quickly apologized and realized that He makes no mistakes. Still pint up with frustration and sorrow I decided that the most therapeutic thing for me to do was to write an open letter to any woman who was feeling distraught over the same idea of entering 2016 single.

“Dear Queen,

I am penning this open letter to you and any individual who is sad, upset, or angry over the idea of entering 2016 single.

Two words: DON’T BE.

Always remember that what is for you, will ALWAYS be for you my Queen. When the timing is right and the chemistry is real, there will never be a single doubt that this is the right man for you. Period.  Now remember, a love so great will take time, Queen, but just know that YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH.

The man that God has prepared for you will never judge you from your past or previous mistakes. He will not “nit-pick” or break down your character in an attempt to change you into something that you are not. Lastly, He will not manipulate you into thinking that your love will never be good enough. Instead, He will be your light in a world full of darkness. He will be your shield during the moments when you cannot even shield yourself. He will be the warmth you have always needed when your heart had felt so cold and empty after so many let downs and disappointments.

You see, my Queen, this type of man will not devalue you as a woman when you express your feelings by labeling you a “drama queen” “argumentative” “crazy” or “emotional.” In contrast, he will value your feelings and will also appreciate your expression for you both share the common end goal of having a beautiful, peaceful, long lasting relationship. So as you prepare to achieve your goals and elevate your standards in the New Year continue to radiate your beauty, intelligence, cunningness and kindness for your King will naturally gravitate towards you with an open heart, mind and spirit.

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7 Comments

  • Lade January 13, 2016 at 10:26 am

    “You see, my Queen, this type of man will not devalue you as a woman when you express your feelings by labeling you a “drama queen” “argumentative” “crazy” or “emotional.”
    YES!! So many of these ‘boys’ don’t know how to express their feelings so all that is alien to them. Sigh.
    Thanks for the post.
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  • TANG January 13, 2016 at 10:59 am

    “Lastly, He will not manipulate you into thinking that your love will never be good enough. Instead, He will be your light in a world full of darkness. He will be your shield during the moments when you cannot even shield yourself. He will be the warmth you have always needed when your heart had felt so cold and empty after so many let downs and disappointments.”
    This part got me. So many things that we need but do not get. My goal this year is to be happy, to make myself happy no matter what and not put my happiness in anybody’s hands. May God help us all.
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  • Enyene Raph January 13, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    Beautiful words of wisdom, Grace. I hope I always remember to refer to myself as Queen. Thanks for sharing…

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  • Dicey January 13, 2016 at 12:41 pm

    In pursuit of happiness shouldn’t be attached to a relationship or marriage. Discover yourself and feel happy with your life and then it makes it easy to filter out people who should be in or out of our life. And when you’ve got positive things going on in your life you attract the right people.

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  • ifunanya January 13, 2016 at 12:43 pm

    So true, and as someone who has had both “shitty relationship” and “next to perfect relationship”, it will be worth it in the end when you finally find that special one….
    Nice one…

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  • Ijenna January 19, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    Sigh. I’m not particularly angry or frustrated, just… tired. Very wise words in this write up.

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  • Damiloves February 2, 2016 at 12:24 am

    Amen to this; “You see, my Queen, this type of man will not devalue you as a woman when you express your feelings by labeling you a “drama queen” “argumentative” “crazy” or “emotional.”

    A real man will value and respect your opinions.

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